Having a baby challenges everything you thought you knew about yourself. The transition from “woman” to “mother” is a time filled with love, but peppered with anxiety, confusion, and frustration. If we can look through the difficulties (with our bloodshot, burning eyes) we can see the amazing new self that’s developed from the seemingly impossible challenge of becoming a mom. You are strong as a mother, likely stronger than you ever thought.
Here are four life lessons you’ve likely learned after becoming a mother:
You Can Survive on Very Little Sleep
I know you did it back in your party days, but this is a whole new level of sleep deprivation. It’s not like when you pulled an all-nighter and drank three Redbulls to make it through your retail job, then crashed out on the couch after work.
It’s a 24-hour, nonstop, anxiety-fest while feeling like you didn’t sleep one wink.
Fun fact: You can’t have energy drinks if you’re nursing!
But you have this incredible ability to handle it. Before you gave birth (even more so during the pregnancy) you needed a minimum of eight hours to feel normal. Now, you’re lucky to get four hours at a time. Then that sweet little alarm clock smiles and your energy meter goes right back to the top like Wall-E in the sun. There’s nothing like getting your third, fourth, or even fifth wind because of a baby giggle. All the caffeine in the world doesn’t compare.
You Have More Patience Than You Thought
A screaming baby is no joke. That sound is beyond a smoke detector, fire engine, or car alarm. Not louder, but more stressful. Particularly if it’s your own baby doing the wailing. I know there was at least one night when I felt like it would never end. When you wanted to pull all of your hair out and run screaming into the night… but you can’t. You walk through the house bouncing that bundle of shrieking joy for hours.
Even when your partner had folded and covered his head with a pillow while yelling “Just stop!!!” (as any sane person would), you kept right on trying to comfort that inconsolable, waling love-bunny. YOU (the person who yells at the car in front of you if the light is green for more than two seconds) did that! This gift of super-human patience definitely came as a necessary bonus with the gift of motherhood.
You Are Less Superficial Than You Used to Be
Literally EVERYTHING except the baby is now small stuff that you can’t afford to sweat over. You used to need to primp before you left the house. Even if it was just mascara and a little concealer. Remember when you swore you would be the put-together mom at the grocery store and you’d never let yourself look a mess in public? Ha. Now you DGAF!
In a way, that is a freeing. Being too tired and concerned with your baby to care what strangers think of you is sort of a gift. You throw on your sweats and run your errands with a mom bun and no makeup. Everyone is looking at the baby anyway!
You Are EVEN Stronger Than You Imagined
Maybe you thought you were pretty strong to begin with. Look at me, making a human and stuff! Even on days you felt like crap, you put on makeup and went out into the world. You survived through the morning sickness, muscle aches, hormones, and the delivery.
Then this little human you created turned your life inside out and tested you in ways you never thought possible. And guess what? You get through it. You are strong.
Sure, you might have thrown a binky across the room out of frustration at some point (at least I did). Maybe you sat on the floor next to the crib and bawled. You might have let the baby scream in the crib and walked outside for a breath, just to keep from losing it.
Despite moments of weakness (and the inevitable avalanche of guilt that follows), you are strong as a mother. All of our motherhood journeys are different, but the thing they all have in common is our strenght. If you can handle the sleepless nights, the bleeding nipples, the crushing anxiety, the guilt, the doing it alone, the no sleep
If you can handle the sleepless nights, the bleeding nipples, the crushing anxiety, the guilt, the doing it alone, the 12-hour shift on two hours of sleep, the formula guilt, the just knowing you are going to mess it all up. If you can handle all that, you can handle everything.
YOU ARE STRONG AS A MOTHER!
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